Me in my second dancing class ever:
“I hope today will be easier. Feeling nervous.
But I want to be able to dance so badly…
The girls over there look much more experienced. Is this the right class?
I think I’ll just stay in the back.
Oh man, I really suck at remembering choreographies.
These moves are weird. I’ll try to fake it, but I feel silly. Never done this before.
Ok, finally got the legs. But my arms look awkward!
I hope no-one is watching me. Everyone else looks so confident…
Really, I don’t look pretty. Maybe this is not my style. But what is my style?
Oh noo, we’re splitting groups and everyone will get to watch me. I guess, I have to bite the bullet…”
This is how insecure and uncomfortable I felt in my own body at the beginning of my dancing journey.
Eventually, I continued “biting the bullet“ and tried out a lot more classes and styles. But simply taking more classes was not the answer.
Looking back at insecure Miglena and observing now where my own students get stuck at, there’s one clear moment when the moves stop feeling “silly“ and you start to truly progress.
It’s the moment you stop judging your movement and start observing it with pure curiosity. The moment when you’re not focused anymore on how weird you look, but become present and immersed in what you’re actually doing.
In this video I’ll show you:
- How to deal with the uncomfortable sensations, when they arise
- Specific questions to help you get out of your head and shift your mind from judging towards exploring
- The fastest way to learn and get confident in dancing
- My own journey and how to enjoy yours more
The first step you can take today to get comfortable with dancing and movement off the pole is to dance your warmups! During warmups your judgemental mind is less active than during dance choreographies, so it’ll feel like you’re not even trying.
To get you started I prepared a FREE 15min follow-along Flow Warmup that you can get here:
It will help you soften your movement and make it look and feel more like a dance. Hopefully, you can use some of these sequences and transitions for your own routines and choreographies too.
You hit everything on the email, we don’t have enough poles so we split all the time, the first time I was Oh No but I have got used to it now.
Love your dancing.
sierra lewis says
I LOVE all your advice!!!
Your so awesome thanks for sharing your knowledge of exotic dance! I am looking forward to trying your 15 minute warm up before my next practice 🙂