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„I’m Not Made For This…“ – The mind-body connection in pole dancing

10. June 2020 by Miglena

Video below ↓

As Brené Brown writes in one of her books:
„For many of us, there is no form of self-expression that makes us feel more vulnerable than dancing. It is full body vulnerability.“

Omg, so true!

Have you had following thoughts?

„That’s ridiculous!“ 
„I’m not good at this“
„My body doesn’t work that way“
„I’m not made for this“

Yeh, me too.

Looking back to when that inner voice was most loud and overwhelming, what immediately comes to my mind is my first dancing classes as an adult.

I’ve always considered myself a sporty gal, but oh man, dancing was quite different. ?

Not only had my mind to learn to communicate with parts of my body on a biomechanical level, but it also was constantly trying to talk me out of it. And it sounded very convincing – best “salesman”. lol

If you’re experiencing the same, know that your mind is tricking you most of the time.

New movement patterns (when safe for your body) are absolutely beneficial and valuable, especially if you’re transitioning from pole fitness to pole DANCING. 

As I’m now helping others make that transition into dancing, I can tell you that the judging mind will be the first (and maybe biggest) obstacle you’d need to overcome. Sometimes it will completely overtake your training and keep you stuck in your own head. It will prevent you from learning and progressing.

Here’s how you can deal with it:
(3min video from my online course “Body Awareness & Fluidity”)


Accept that:

  • You will suck at the beginning
  • Every day is different
  • You don’t need to fix things immediately

Be curious!

Anything else that helps you counter the sabotage of your mind during training?

Let me know in the comments below.

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